What is Orgasm?
Orgasm is the build up of pleasure during sexual practice that leads to a peak and then a release.
Are there many kind or orgasms?
A woman’s orgasm can be achieved externally, through the Clitoris, a round small gland located above the urethra (the pee hole) Or internally, through the vagina, few inches inside and upward, there’s the G spot, generally its on the side of the belly button.
How do I know its an orgasm?
The feeling of orgasm is unmistakable..if you are wondering whether what you experienced is orgasm or not…then its probably NOT.
The feeling of orgasm is very pronounced and strong that it just can never go unnoticed. Especially the clitoral orgasm.
What is common about orgasm is that you feel your pelvic muscles and sometimes legs muscle contract…your breath patterns change (slow down or is held inside) and your Clitoris will feel desensitized for some time, meaning you can not tolerate any more touch down there…it might actually be painful.
The build up to orgasm is a sustained pleasure, meaning you will feel you want to keep the pace and the pressure unchanged for some time…like a plateau.
Then at some point there will be a Peak or a Climax, usually average of 10 seconds of Extreme Pleasure that ends with a release, after which you feel normal again or sometimes sleepy. The Clit becomes desensitized and can be extremely painful to the touch.
Does the quality of Orgasm differ ?
Yes it does……Depending on the woman state of arousal prior to sex/masturbation, quality and duration of foreplay…the orgasm’s quality will vary..
If the arousal was forced…or generally low or average..the build up to orgasm might take longer,and the Climax itself might be average, sort of a nice feeling but not powerful/mind blowing.
And if the woman was in an intense state of arousal, high quality foreplay, the clitoris will be more sensitive, very lubricated and erect…and the buildup to Climax will take relatively a short time ,and ends with high sensation of pleasure.( a great orgasm)
Is Clitoral orgasm easy to achieve during sex?
Not during intercourse..unless a woman touches herself…or the sexual position is causing friction against the clit.
Having said that…the best way to stimulate a woman’s labia and clitoris..is by Oral sex, because this area is extremely sensitive…the tongue is usually the first and the best way to stimulate it…followed then by lubricated fingers..
So clitoral orgasm is best achieved during sex..using tongue …wet fingers and vibrators… those are all gentle and effective. (For a kinky tip..you can use the head of your man’s penis to rub it on your clitoris like your own toy!!)
What about G spot?
While ALL Women can achieve the glorious orgasm of Clitoris…Vaginal orgasm remains so vague and doubtful.
Vaginal orgasm is
not easily achieved during intercourse…but with a woman knowing her own body…and personal acquired skills of masturbation,every woman CAN Actually find her way through an internal orgasm.
Tips on reaching G spot orgasm:
1- Make sure you are really aroused..and naturally lubricated..and in a state of pleasure not pressure. When your mind is sexual,
your body is more likely to feel the arousal.
So remember to activate your sexual mind..by reading erotica..by sexting…take nude pictures of yourself.. admire your body in a mirror…turn Yourself on..make effort to stimulate your senses by yourself…because your man won’t always do it for you. So try to rely on yourself in that department…you are a “sex goddess” already, if you only decide to see it.
2- The best foreplay tip prior to orgasm is oral sex…alternated with fingering. oral sex plus fingering, makes you heated, wet…and builds up to your pleasure so that you are half way through an orgasm..
Tongue flicking your clit and labia…curled fingers thrusting your vagina…you are bound to build up excitement that will lead you to climax.
When you are aroused..the vaginal wall is already erect…lubricated and your g spot swells in preparation for an internal orgasm.
With fingering , you are more likely to need less time at intercourse to achieve orgasm. Since women take way longer time then men to orgasm , fingering before intercourse will put any woman half way to orgasm. Which means more chances that you and your man cum together. So combine oral with fingering before penetration.
3- As mentioned before…the g spot is located upward inside..in parallel to your belly button. Which means..ideally the penis should have a bend tip to it..(bent upward like a banana shape) of course that’s not always possible due to differences in penis shapes.
Luckily different sexual positions can facilitate the orgasm depending on every shape. For missionary positions make sure you place a cushion to elevate your hips and bottom..so its easier for your man penis to reach your g spot.
It has been also said that most women orgasm in 2 positions:
The doggy position (make sure your chest is lying flat on the surface)And the Reversed Cow Girl.
Of course those are not rules..so experiment with your man until you find the best position for you..and mostly for the shape of his penis.
4- Masturbate; Ideally with a dildo. You can never guide your man on how to please you..when you yourself do not know how to
please yourself or don’t even know where is your spot!
So first make sure you are really turned on, then either use two fingers and press inside your vagina upward until you find your sweet spot. (G spot has slightly a rough grainy feel to it) Or invest in a dildo with a bent tip and experiment with a long lasting erected penis toy.
When masturbating vaginally, you will need a curling tip dildo…and if you are using your fingers…make sure they are curled upward.. or pointing upward as if you are aiming to your belly button. The g spot is basically the inside part of your clitoris..and since the Clit is positioned upward, your g spot is most likely in that same line but inward.
Do not imitate the penis friction during masturbation. Experiment with different rhythms…pressure..and techniques..and remember there’s no rules when it comes to pleasure and orgasm…each woman makes the rules according to what feels right for her and according to her unique anatomy.
*Don’t try any of these tips unless you are wet or artificially lubricated*
By Sara Essam
Just a passionate person interested in Psychology,
self development, and sexual knowledge.